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Learn To Fall In Love With YOURSELF

Do you see being single as an opportunity? 

So I will be the first person to tell you that I love love. 

I love falling in love and being in love.

(cue the butterflies, the champagne, and the romantic music)

I used to consider myself a relationship type of girl. 

I spent 90% of my 20s going from relationship to relationship. 

It was exciting to find a man I really liked, go through the courtship phase, become exclusive and then fall in love…

As you can see, I had a process. 

And it worked for a bit… until it didn’t.

Because 10% of the time when I was single, I was so frustrated! I was so busy trying to find “my ride or die”, I failed to see that I had the opportunity to become my own “ride or die”. 

When I finally embraced being single, I learned to be happy with myself. I learned to fall in love with myself.

As a break-up and dating coach, I see so many clients who struggle with being single or can’t seem to let go of “the one that got away”. 

So they hold onto that glimmer of hope or settle for that person who doesn’t quite meet their needs because “there’s probably no one better”.

That makes me so sad!

So what opportunities are available to you now that your single?

  1. Personal growth: I’m a huge believer in investing in your brain. You’re in charge of your life and no one can run it better than you! Now that you’re single, you can spend more time gaining new knowledge and learning new skills.  Learn more about yourself!  Embrace your authentic self. Hire a coach to help guide you through this transition!
  1. Hobbies and classes: You’ll have more time in your schedule to explore new hobbies and interests. Take a class, join The Single Girl’s Kit: Fall 🙂

Hang out with your friends you kinda neglected while you were in your relationship (guilty of this). Now you can build stronger friendships. 

  1. Lifestyle change: In my last relationship, I gained 10lbs in four years! I definitely developed some unhealthy habits and patterns. So when you’re single: you can prioritize your health more. You’ll also have more money because relationships can be expensive. Dating can be expensive. So when you’re single you’ll have more money to play with! Treat yourself! 

What other possibilities come up for you when you start to embrace your singlehood?

Start embracing and celebrating your greatness today by booking a complimentary Discovery Session with me. 

You don’t have to do it alone! 

And guess what?

The Single Girl’s Kit: Fall Edition is back September 23rd! 

Be fearless by breaking all the rules!

Be more self-confident!

Learn how to attract the man of your dreams!

You’re 100% worthy and the ladies of The Single Girl’s Kit never lower their standards! 

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I Am The Work

“I am the work!” 

A peer recently said this in a group coaching program that we are in together, and I had such a lightbulb moment, “OH MY YES!  I AM THE WORK” (cue the applause!!!!)

Over the past year, I started to APPLY what I learned in coaching school and beyond to my own life. 

I am not sure if it was intentional at first, as I had simply decided to do something different when I leaned in and enrolled in coaching school, but it slowly has become a part of me. 

And while I wasn’t sure what to expect at first, what I realize now is that my lens and perspective about life, how I was showing up and wanted to feel, expanded and so did I.  I started to see things around me and within me differently. 

The principles I was learning encouraged me to slow down, observe, raise my awareness, be present and in the moment, to understand the energy I wanted to feel and DECIDE to make different choices to support that.  With the help of a coach, I found myself more often reflecting and challenging myself, my thoughts, and how I was showing up.  I started to APPLY what I was learning, and it started to make a huge shift in my life. 

“Information without application is simply entertainment”

It took me a while to figure this one out…  I had been consuming so much “stuff” but not applying anything consistently – you know, reading books, listening to podcast, etc.

To be honest, I didn’t even really know what to apply for that matter because with so much information, it was overwhelming and change is uncomfortable, so easy to actually not do! 

My personal growth journey had started years prior but this time felt different …. it was the self-discovery combined with the application, the habit changes, the small steps that became consistent, and actually helped me to change my beliefs, change my thoughts, change my actions.  I realized I had been consuming a whole lot of information but not really applying it consistently, until now. 

And while I am on the right path, I am human. 

I learn I grow, I fall, I get back up, and keep at it.  Because I am seeing how the work works, I can see how far I have come, how much I have grown, and it gives me chills!

The one place where I have seen the biggest change was in my relationships with others, particularly at home – with my children and my husband.  I was calmer, I was yelling less, I was making decisions that just felt right, and having conversations that usually I would have totally avoided in the past. 

I started to observe when I was feeling triggered and began to understand what I was lacking in those moments to cause me to feel uncertain.  Once I began to slow down, pause, and notice (bye-bye autopilot!!!), I was able to show up differently, more confidently, more empowered.  I began to set boundaries to help me feel how I wanted to feel (calm, ease, and joy are key feelings for me when I am with my family).  And I was noticeably happier, lighter, and more focused to my kids and my husband. 

I am the work!

As moms, we are stretched thin (now in Covid, it has felt like more than ever!) and as we anticipate going back to school, with a lot of uncertainty of how is it all going to get done, an idea came to me – why not teach “the work” that has made such an impact to me, to other moms. 

I have always loved community, and to be able to create a space where we can share, grow and learn together.   The one thing I know for sure, none of us should feel alone in this process of raising our children while also caring for ourselves and now, you do not have to!

I am hosting a 6-week group coaching, “Revive and Thrive Mastermind – Mom Edition” starting September 3. I will be teaching “the work” that I have done and continue to do to raise my awareness, understand my triggers, and choose how I want to feel and show up and actually do it!  We will also have the space to share our wins and discuss challenges, to learn from each other, hold each other accountable, and to inspire and support each other. 

Sign up by August 7 to receive a BONUS of TWO FREE 30 minute one on one coaching sessions.  If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to reach out and message me. 

Spots are limited, so act quickly! 

I would love to share this work and this experience with all of you!

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