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Increase Your Connection in 3 Steps

Increase Your Connection
Learn to increase your connection in 3 steps

Let’s say you met someone you really like and they seem charming and funny. You genuinely enjoy your conversations with them but you’re unsure on how to increase your connection with them.

But why can this be challenging?

Developing (and maintaining) a sense of connection with a potential partner is a process. And this process can be simple but challenging at times because it might require you to reexamine some limiting beliefs and blocks. 

We all want to feel heard, seen, and understood. We’re human beings and it’s natural. But in the world of modem dating, mindless swiping and ghosting, it can leave you feeling drained and guarded. Keep reading and check out these 3 ways that have personally helped me increase my sense of connection with friends, family and in my dating life: 

Three Ways To Increase Your Connection

Be Curious

Ask open ended questions. Be curious about who they are and what excites them. Ask questions that inspire a thoughtful response. Explore and accept who they are. 

Vulnerability

Are you revealing the most authentic parts of yourself? The good and the ‘not so’ good parts too? No need to go in deeeep on the first few dates, but share what feels right to you. Yes, being vulnerable can be scary and may require you to trust someone without them “proving” themselves. But the results will be rewarding and worth it. It’s brave and can inspire the other person to open up as well. 

Listen Listen Listen

Are you living in the moment? Put away your phone and social media when you’re out with another person, it can be distracting. Make eye contact. Be fully present and engaged in the conversation. Ask yourself, are you listening to understand or just waiting for your time to talk? This can be practiced. If you’re unsure with what they mean, connect with your date by asking clarifying questions. Make sure you truly understand!

How do you think increasing your sense of connection might benefit your dating life today? 

What’s preventing you from feeling connected or creating a sense of connection?

One person has the power to change a relationship.

Everything can start with you. 

If this sounds like you, sign up below for a complimentary discovery call.

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3 Behaviors of a High Caliber Woman: It’s simpler than you think

It's Simpler Than You Think

I used to have so much anxiety when I thought about being a high-caliber woman. I thought being a high caliber woman meant I needed to be:

A good girl. 

Always doing it right. 

Perfect.

I spent most of my dating life overthinking everything around me and eventually I was pretty overwhelmed and frustrated. 

But then I finally asked for help, got out of my own head, and realized it was actually pretty simple. 

Being a high-caliber woman isn’t about being perfect or doing things right or wrong. It’s about these 3 behaviors I’m confident you can learn and start practicing this month! 

She is Authentic:

When you come from a place of authenticity you create power. Doesn’t mean you’re perfect, it means you embrace your quirks, your style, and your gifts. It’s freeing and maybe a little uncomfortable. And that’s a great sign! When women join the Single Girl’s Kit, they learn how to sit with their fear and how to channel that energy into strength and courage. 

Honors her Standards:

In the Single Girl’s Kit, I teach it’s OK to be selective. You are not asking for “too much”. It’s important to protect your energy. So if you have a standard where a man must ask you on a proper date, you honor your standards by only focusing on the men who are actually asking you out on dates! So if he’s texting you “u up?” at 2am, no need to get mad, just walk away. The right man for you will respect your standards. I promise. 

Communicates her Needs & Wants:

For most of my 20s, I had no clue what I truly needed & desired in a relationship. I just adopted beliefs I heard from my friends, TV shows, and movies. So when you join the Single Girl’s Kit, I help you clarify exactly what you want, how to overcome your blocks, and how to communicate this in a high-value way. This will completely change your dating life and relationships forever.  

The Single Girl’s Kit is not your average group dating program. It is so much more. The life you want is more attainable than you think. And you won’t be alone in this journey. 

You will be surrounded by a community of women who are just like you. Willing, Serious, Ready. 

The Single Girl’s Kit: Summer returns Saturday, June 19th, 12pm Eastern/ 11am Central. 

If this sounds like you, sign up using the registration link below: 

Register For The Single Girl’s Kit

If you have any additional questions or concerns please consider scheduling a FREE 45 minute discovery call with me. I can’t wait to meet you!

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Take Charge Today – It’s Simpler Than You Think!

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Are you focusing on the HOW?

I spent most of my 20s asking HOW?

  • “How do I find “The One?” 
  • “How do I get him to like me?”
  • “How long am I going to be single?” 

This caused me so much anxiety and self-doubt that I eventually avoided dating. I was so caught up on how to get it right, I stopped enjoying the process. I didn’t know how to make dating enjoyable again.

But now in my 30s, I do things a bit differently. 

I stopped searching for “the one”, I stopped people-pleasing, and I stopped focusing on the how and started focusing on the what. 

That’s what led me to the relationship I’m in now. 

The problem was not the how. The problem is that you’re unclear on what you truly want. You don’t believe you can truly make dating work for you. This is depleting your energy. 

That’s why The Single Girl’s Kit group program was created. It helps you feel alive and secure while dating. 

So if that sounds like you, the first step is to schedule a FREE 45-minute discovery call with me where I’ll:

– Learn all about you and your current circumstance

– See what might be blocking your true desires

– Create a plan 

Totally free and with no obligation to buy or enroll. You truly have nothing to lose. 

Are you ready? 

Schedule A Free Discovery Call

And don’t forget: The Single Girl’s Kit: Summer is moving to Saturdays!

See you June 19, 2021.

Let’s go!

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Are you making the first move?

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When was the last time you…

  • Introduced yourself to a stranger?
  • Asked a question?
  • Called (not text) that person you’ve been crushing on? 
  • Told the Universe what you wanted?

Part of making the first move is saying yes to going after what you want, challenging yourself, and honoring the adventure. It’s like shooting your shot. When you shoot your shot the energy is high and flowing. It’s exciting. 

But what stops people from shooting their shot? Most of the time the underlying feeling is fear of rejection. And as humans, we tend to stay away from potentially hurtful feelings so we avoid and hold back from making any moves. You might even watch from the sidelines and watch someone else make that first move and think, “I wish I could do that”. 

And I believe you can. You can start today. 

When you make the first move you instantly take the “what if” or “I wish I could…” off the table. 

Because you did the dang thing and that’s something to celebrate! Whether big or small it doesn’t matter. This is your journey and you’re in charge. All it takes is desire and a commitment to taking things one step at a time. I challenge you to decide to try a new way of showing up in your life.

What does the first move look like for you?

Make the first move by scheduling a 45 min discovery call right now.

No more “what if.” 

Your time starts now. 

It’s free and you have nothing to lose. 

Are you ready? 

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From Self Abandonment to Honoring Yourself in 4 Steps

In my last relationship, I found myself holding onto a glimmer of hope. Hoping his behavior would change, hoping he would finally meet my needs. I was waiting and waiting for him to “wake up”…

Spoiler alert: nothing changed. 

And when I finally had the courage to move forward, I was angry. 

Angry because I felt like I wasted so much time. Disappointed because I feared I would never meet the right person for me. Frustrated that I had entertained the bad behavior for far too long. 

I thought: “this must be it.” But it wasn’t. 

Acknowledge your true desires: Clarify exactly what you want and need. Think about it, picture it, and imagine how you will feel when you’re in your ideal situation. Why do you want this? Commit to this.

Stay aware: You absolutely have the power of conscious choice. What’s the cost of choosing to continue doing whatever you’re doing? You can try something new today. Stay open to this. 

Believe you are capable: Believe you are deserving of what you truly desire. This is a tough one for some of my clients. This was also tough for me in the beginning. Baby steps. Tell the universe what you deserve. The universe will listen and provide. Be this. 

Acceptance: Embrace where you are. You are doing the best you can. It is a matter of when not if. 

We are all a work in progress and I know this process works because I am living proof. 

Consider scheduling a 45 min discovery call right now.

No more “waiting until.” 

Your time starts now. 

It’s free and you have nothing to lose. 

Are you ready? 

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How do you want to use your past?

Register for The Single Girl’s Kit

As a break-up and dating coach, I often see clients who struggle with seeing clearly “what is” and “what was.” 

It’s common to question what went wrong in a failed relationship or wonder why he never called back or wish you didn’t send that text.

And it’s completely understandable. It’s tough and it may still hurt. You may wish you could go back and change things. 

But believe it or not, the story you tell yourself about your past matters. Are you the hero or victim of the story? 


So starting today, you get to decide what your past means to you. That’s right, you get to decide what you’re bringing into your future. This is what coaching is all about. 

So this week, I challenge you to ask yourself these questions:

  1. What story am I telling myself about my previous relationship?
  2. What lesson am I choosing to take from this relationship?
  3. What am I releasing? 
  4. I did the best I could because…
  5. Who do I want to be starting today?

Share your answers with us LIVE tomorrow, January 27th at 6PM eastern on our new weekly show “Wednesdays with SGK” on YouTube where we share tips on:

  • -Why you must let go of your ex to let in new love
  • -How you can take back your power with online dating
  • -Why dating is still possible for you if you’ve been out of the game 
  • -Our 7 steps to a more self-confident you in 2021 

Enough is enough. 

Stop waiting for the “perfect” time. 

Your time starts now. 

Are you ready? 

Date without the drama and join a community of women who are saying “YES, it’s my turn now.”

The Single Girl’s Kit starts February 10th. 

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3 TOP Principles To Practice NOW for a Deeper Connection

Developing (and maintaining) a sense of connection with a friend, significant other, or co-worker may seem out of reach sometimes but I’m a firm believer you can authentically create connections that work for you!

Here are my top 3 principles I’ve personally used in 2020 to help increase my sense of connection with friends, family, and in my dating life: 

Be Curious

Start questioning everything! Be genuinely curious about who they are. This is how deeper connections are formed. Be curious about their thoughts, their needs/wants, and their dreams and goals. Learn what drives them. Ask questions that inspire a thoughtful response.  

Listen Listen Listen

During difficult conversations in my last relationship, I used to find myself thinking: “When is it my turn to talk?!” and this totally kept me in my head! I wasn’t truly listening to what my partner was saying. So in turn, my partner would feel dismissed and unheard. I had to learn how to be fully present and engaged in the conversation. This took practice. And I believe you can do it too. The next time you’re on a zoom call or IRL: be present and silence any distractions. Connect with your partner’s real message, and ask clarifying questions. Make sure you truly understand!

Celebrate them

Have you ever received a compliment from someone and instantly felt really amazing about yourself? People like to feel seen, heard, and understood. When was the last time you showed that special someone you appreciate them? This could look like complimenting them on a quality you admire most about them or providing an act of service you know will put a smile on their face. 

  • What would happen to your relationships if you started practicing this today? 
  • How would they respond to your connection? 
  • What difference does this create in your relationships? 

One person has the power to change a relationship.

Everything can start with you. 

Begin now.

Schedule a Free Discovery Session to learn how to start practicing this today. 

Find out more about Single Girl’s Kit and how this will be the best decision for 2021 you will make for yourself today.

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I used to take it personally!

I used to take it personally if a guy didn’t immediately text me back, 

Or if it seemed like someone didn’t want to be my friend,

Or if colleagues went out without me.

I created a “they must not be interested in me” story in my head. 

Sound familiar? 

You might have felt: frustrated, disappointed, or insecure. You might have given up on a potential relationship or friendship. Which is perfectly understandable, you’re human. 

But what’s the cost of this interpretation? 

How might this story hold you back? 

Interpretations are usually created in the moment and can also come from the past. An interpretation is your opinion or a story you’ve created regarding a situation or circumstance. 

The key is to remember that there may be other ways to look at it. 

So if something like this were to happen to you: Pause and breathe. 

Ask yourself:

-What’s another way I can look at this? 

-What else might be going on? 

-What might my best friend say about this? 

So when you realize there might be an entirely different view of this, you automatically lessen the interpretation and raise your vibration! 

You got this. This is your journey and this might be challenging to do on your own. 

Are you struggling with trusting yourself or others, unsure if you should dust yourself off and try again in your relationship? 

Do you fear rejection? 

Want to learn my answer to fear of rejection that has allowed me to approach all of my relationships (platonic and romantic) more confidently? 

Consider reaching out to me and scheduling a 45 min complimentary call. 

I have something for you.

It’s free and you have nothing to lose. 

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Why I’m happy that relationship did not last

“Change is the only constant” 

What comes to mind when you read the above foundation principle?

When my last relationship ended I took it very personally. 

I thought: “Why me? Oh well, I guess I have to move on.”  

I felt rejected. I felt anxious. I didn’t feel good enough.  

At the time, I was very resistant to change because of fear. 

Fear of the unknown. 

Angry at my ex for giving up on the relationship.

This resulted in me ruminating on the couch, watching Netflix, and drinking numerous bottles of wine. 

But then I got my butt off the couch, went back into the gym, and hired a coach who helped me see the power in moving forward by releasing my anger, fear, loss, and resentment. 

You see, resistance to change mostly comes from perspective. 

And I was seeing my ex’s actions as a reflection of ME. 

But in reality, his actions were simply actions based on HIM stemming from his own history, his own beliefs, etc. 

“Change your thoughts and you change your world” 

I was now able to see aspects of that relationship a lot differently. 

So here is what I learned and why I’m happy that relationship didn’t last:

  • You learn to think before you act: Miscommunication can be a huge cause of break up. Learn to listen, acknowledge,  and respond with kindness.
  • Both people must choose each other: If the other person stopped choosing you, it won’t work. Their loss, your gain! 
  • You learn to accept people for who they are: All experiences have value. 
  • Now you get to date other people: 2020 isn’t over! Now you get to meet new people who can’t wait to love you back! 
  • You learn to love and appreciate yourself: There is power in learning to love and take care of yourself now! You’re worthy and no one can take that away from you. 

Now is the perfect time to start embracing and celebrating your greatness today by booking a complimentary Discovery Session with me.

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Learn To Fall In Love With YOURSELF

Do you see being single as an opportunity? 

So I will be the first person to tell you that I love love. 

I love falling in love and being in love.

(cue the butterflies, the champagne, and the romantic music)

I used to consider myself a relationship type of girl. 

I spent 90% of my 20s going from relationship to relationship. 

It was exciting to find a man I really liked, go through the courtship phase, become exclusive and then fall in love…

As you can see, I had a process. 

And it worked for a bit… until it didn’t.

Because 10% of the time when I was single, I was so frustrated! I was so busy trying to find “my ride or die”, I failed to see that I had the opportunity to become my own “ride or die”. 

When I finally embraced being single, I learned to be happy with myself. I learned to fall in love with myself.

As a break-up and dating coach, I see so many clients who struggle with being single or can’t seem to let go of “the one that got away”. 

So they hold onto that glimmer of hope or settle for that person who doesn’t quite meet their needs because “there’s probably no one better”.

That makes me so sad!

So what opportunities are available to you now that your single?

  1. Personal growth: I’m a huge believer in investing in your brain. You’re in charge of your life and no one can run it better than you! Now that you’re single, you can spend more time gaining new knowledge and learning new skills.  Learn more about yourself!  Embrace your authentic self. Hire a coach to help guide you through this transition!
  1. Hobbies and classes: You’ll have more time in your schedule to explore new hobbies and interests. Take a class, join The Single Girl’s Kit: Fall 🙂

Hang out with your friends you kinda neglected while you were in your relationship (guilty of this). Now you can build stronger friendships. 

  1. Lifestyle change: In my last relationship, I gained 10lbs in four years! I definitely developed some unhealthy habits and patterns. So when you’re single: you can prioritize your health more. You’ll also have more money because relationships can be expensive. Dating can be expensive. So when you’re single you’ll have more money to play with! Treat yourself! 

What other possibilities come up for you when you start to embrace your singlehood?

Start embracing and celebrating your greatness today by booking a complimentary Discovery Session with me. 

You don’t have to do it alone! 

And guess what?

The Single Girl’s Kit: Fall Edition is back September 23rd! 

Be fearless by breaking all the rules!

Be more self-confident!

Learn how to attract the man of your dreams!

You’re 100% worthy and the ladies of The Single Girl’s Kit never lower their standards!