What is unfolding doesn’t seem to be slowing down any time soon–collectively or personally. I know that for me I am going through incredible change that isn’t necessarily good or bad, but it is real and intense.
When we show up for the work, the work works us.
Staying present, owning our reality and always being willing to accept what is truly here is no small task. Infact, it’s very rare.
Much of the world runs on autopilot; without a pause. People act, think, say and do most things out of formality. They do what they think is right, expected, acceptable or what they see others doing.
But is that really who you are?
What do YOU want to be doing?
Is that really what you want to say to this person?
Do you actually want to be here right now?
When we stop and observe that autopilot animal that is ourselves, we notice what really doesn’t make sense. We start to question the real why behind our actions and in effect, the actions themselves start to change. Like an animal that realizes it is being watched.
“Oh, you see me?”
This means that we start to change. How we show up, the choices we make, what we say and how we feel all start to look different. Miracles happen.
Spoiler alert: once this starts to happen, there’s no going back!
Fear
The beginning of this process can be met with a lot of fear. And I mean A LOT. For the first year of “taking the mask off” I was taking cold showers, jumping in the ocean, shaking uncontrollably, eating ungodly amounts of chocolate or not eating at all. I was re-awakening my nervous system and letting all the fear, anxiety and panic detox from my system from years of pretending to be someone else, holding my tongue or making decisions out of survival.
Quick Tips
When I am in fear of fear, I read this poem.
Afraid of being seen as a “Bitch”? Try this on for size instead:
Being In Total Control of Herself.
Damn straight. I sure am. Thank you! It’s a pleasure to be here.
Getting Loose
With time, coaching and somatic resourcing the fear and anxiety started to normalize and I started to show up “unfiltered.” This is still where I am now and let me tell you–it’s a HOOT watching Kelsey get loose in her natural habitat.
When we start to understand our precious nature, practice strong boundaries and learn to take up space in safety and worthiness there is an inner Self that is ready to rock n’ roll–just waiting to party.
Quick Tip
Need a reminder of your Power? I love watching this poetry reading or this video to ignite me.
For me, lately, my True self has been getting in a little bit of trouble while manifesting a LOT of goodness.
Some typical thoughts for me lately are,
“Did I really just say that?”
“Where did that response come from?”
“Wow Kelsey you’re really not holding back are you?”
“Easy, tiger!”
“You do know people can see you, right Kelsey?”
Owning our Emotions
I’ve become so intimate with my own needs, wants, thoughts and desires that it feels as though all day, every day, I am in conversation with me. People around me have a ball of a time watching me do silly things, enjoy moment-to-moment experiences and speak honesty, truth or total hogwash. But man, am I keepin’ it real!
Quick Tip:
Being honest with ourselves about our true emotions can be incredibly difficult and hard to learn to do. If you’re struggling with this, check out this video showing a father’s patient love. I refer back to this when I need a reminder of how to do this for myself. This is the process of “spiritual reparenting” and is incredibly powerful.
Common side effects of becoming an embodied True self:
Heightened emotions and the experiencing of those emotions.
BIG tears, BIG fears, BIG anger, BIG joy, BIG peace. WOOF!
Hold on tight, love bugs! It’s JUICY.
Unfiltered, direct, clear communication.
This can catch people off guard if they are used to you playing small, but it also attracts the people who can handle it and that are drawn to the True you.
Less judgment towards self and others.
There’s a big trusting in the Self that transforms our thoughts from right vs wrong to option 1 vs option 2. Either way–you’re still worthy. You cannot make a mistake. You’re just learning!
Attraction.
We become manifesting machines when we are tuned into the True self. When we are clear with what we want, own it and admit it to the Universe, it delivers. I have too many stories to count on this lately. It’s incredible. The issue is that we are too busy blocking the Love if we are out of alignment.
Less patience for nonsense.
When we get this real with ourselves, we can start to sniff out the junky, sticky, catabolic stuff in others. They aren’t wrong for it, since hey! I was just there myself not too long ago. Everyone’s journey is unique and perfectly timed for them. But do I genuinely want to continue hanging around them? The True, unfiltered Kelsey says, “No thanks!” But I know that isn’t for me to decide or to do. I simply have to show up as myself and the relationship will either end itself or transform.
Does this sound like fun yet?
I have come to understand that for me, this is the purpose of this lifetime and everyone else who is walking it would say the same.
It is so worth it.
Is it sexy? You’d be surprised!
Is it fun? If we let it be so!
Is it energizing? Like a sugar high that leads to a crash, yes.
Is it worth it? Without question.
I average 8-10 hours a week on self-development work right now. We definitely don’t need the blind leading the blind, and this chic is not messing around when it comes to showing up for the work. I like to participate in things like 1:1 regular coaching and solo retreats with my coach, women’s groups, spiritual awakening groups, somatic therapies, emotional support partnerships, attending webinars, trainings and classes, reading spiritual literature, and practicing yoga and meditation. This is not only to resource me fully so that I can show up blazing for my clients, but also so that I can be a conduit of knowledge, tools and resources.
What do you need in order to awaken the Self inside of you?
What in this article calls to you?
What are you curious about?
What are you waiting for?
If you’re ready to get real and get to work, let’s connect. This work is ready and waiting for you!
Coaching with Kelsey
Coaching for Codependency
Addressing codependency is such a large part of my coaching that I have added an entire resource page to the topic on my site. Check it out here and reach out if you’re looking to heal your relationships, confidence and self-esteem from the inside out.
Coaching for Young Women
Coaching with young women is a growing part of my practice, and in my heart!
Growing up in these times of uncertainty and chaos can be incredibly confusing for young girls developing into strong, empowered women. Stability, consistency and integrity are core to developing a healthy sense of self, confidence and expression. Together, we construct a large, safe, spacious and creative container to support natural transformation, fostering the development of healthy self-esteem, body image, self-concept and relationship skills.
Common Topics for Young Women:
- Negative self-talk
- Friendships & early relationships
- Self-esteem, confidence and self-image
- Communication & trust
- Codependency
- Emotional stability & regulation
- Fear, anxiety or depression
- Social engagement and creativity
Schedule a free Discovery Call to discuss coaching options for the young woman in your life
Coaching with Men Under 50
Having a coach of the opposite sex and can have profoundly healing and transformative effects at any age. In the right opposite sex coach <> client connection, we are safe to explore the corners, needs, and thoughts that aren’t being addressed. We’re free to question the masculine/feminine energies objectively, hold space for opportunities and new ways of being and finally move past the blockers of limiting beliefs. I find that in coaching with men, they become confident and willing to explore beyond the expectations put on them by society, culture, friends and even women themselves. I am grateful for my years of intense experience working with male executives that acquainted me with the masculine dynamic, what it requires and how to remove barriers to growth.
Common Topics for Coaching with Men under 50:
- Fear of vulnerability in relationships
- Codependency
- Dating & attracting meaningful relationships
- Power/ego struggles at work
- Work/life balance
- Sensitivity & self-awareness
- Communication and emotional intelligence
- Self-care, hygiene and independent living
- Self-esteem, confidence and self-image
- Communication & trust
- Emotional stability & regulation
- Spirituality & mindfulness
Does this sound impactful for someone you know?
Interested in referring your man in mind to a male coach?
I have many wonderful coaches to recommend.
Feel free to reach out for recommendations
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Interested in seeing what’s possible for you?
Kelsey is not only a coach who just “gets” you, but allows you the space to truly “get” yourself, to reconnect with the truest and most powerful version of yourself. As a coach, Kelsey is unafraid to partner with you as you travel into unknown territory and lifts you up as she manages to inspire you to transform your vision of what is impossible or uncertain, into a journey that you WILL and do conquer. If you are looking for your capital T Truth – Kelsey is your coach!
Ashlee D., Colorado Springs
