Are interpretations and assumptions ruining your life? Do you come up with a story/reason/excuse for everything that happens – and usually that story doesn’t work out to your advantage?
Stop it.
Stop letting your negative thoughts about yourself determine your story.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
- Interpreting why a guy isn’t texting you without having any actual facts?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
- Assuming you won’t get the job?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
- Assuming no one is hiring?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
- Interpreting how other people perceive you?⠀
- Stressed about a future event that you have no control over?
- Disappointed in something that happened in the past and replaying it over and over in your head?
- Worried about maybe possibly hitting traffic later?
- Judging others or yourself constantly?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This is totally common and normal, but it doesn’t make you happy and it stops you from going after your goals. Statements like these get in your way and you might not even notice you’re doing it.⠀⠀⠀
I did it too. Coaching helped me quit. Coaching helped me see my brain doing this, and eventually, stop it. When I hired a coach, I didn’t even realize what I was doing and how my thoughts were stopping me. My coach helped me see and feel the importance of getting out of my head. And now that I’m a coach, I help my clients do the same. I have so much experience quitting negative thoughts, and now I help others quit too.⠀
This is where your work really begins, and it is not easy. But I know you can do this.
- Simply begin to notice your thoughts.
- Notice when your brain is taking you for a ride and decide to stop it.
- Notice when your brain is caught up in a story and say out loud, “Stop. This story has no place here.” (Say whatever works for you, and keep trying new mantra’s until something really sticks.)
- Make a note of what you are doing and who you are with when you stop the story.
- Take a moment to look up, to feel grateful, to be fully present.
- Put a note in your phone to be reminded a few times per day, “in the moment,” as a reminder to get out of your head.
- Maybe stand up or take a walk when you need to get out of your head.
- Get back to your to-do list
- Text a friend and tell her what you’re doing and ask her to be your accountability partner
Do what works for you – and when you have a day that feels off and nothing seems to be working, that’s okay.
Tell yourself that tomorrow is a new day and you can start over then. One bad day doesn’t mean that you have failed and you should quit. It simply means you had a bad day.
You can tackle the negative thoughts and get back on track toward your goals. This is the first place to start. When you are ready to have support, reach out to me and I’ll help you keep on track toward the life that you truly want.
What’s the one thing that’s stopping you in your tracks? …your lack of confidence…you may feel stuck like you don’t deserve your dream life, or that it is impossible for you to have. All you see are blocks in front of you. This is where I come in.
Tracy and I are hosting the Create Your Confident Life workshop that will guide you through the steps to gaining self-confidence and seeing yourself as a worthy woman who CAN go after and attain her goals.
You will walk away from this workshop understanding how to feel fully confident and how to attract the life you want.
